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Coping with infertility

Discovering that you have difficulty conceiving can impact on all aspects of life.

Discovering that you have difficulty conceiving can impact on all aspects of life and cause unfamiliar, painful emotions. Many people feel lonely and isolated, particularly when friends and relatives seem to be able to have children with ease.

Feelings of frustration, confusion, sadness, hopelessness and even anger may surface, whilst others may have the feelings of guilt and shame. These are all understandable and normal reactions to a situation where a patient feels out of control, with their autonomy threatened.

Infertility can be one of the most difficult situations you will face in life. Appreciating it as a common condition affecting many couples, and understanding that you are not alone are the first steps to coping with your emotions.

Learning more about your condition and the treatments available will help towards a better understanding and enable informed choices. Our fertility teams are here to help and advise, either during a formal consultation or simply a chat over the phone. Do not be afraid to ask questions, however trivial they may seem. Written information will be supplied to back up treatment options and discussions.

Before starting fertility treatment, all patients are encouraged to take the opportunity of receiving counselling. All of our BMI fertility centres have trained counsellors available to offer support focused on helping to cope with the physical and emotional difficulties associated with infertility.

 provides emotional support at times of particular stress, and an opportunity to discuss any concerns about your treatment with an impartial person. It is available as part of your initial decision making and at any stage of your treatment.

Apart from the counselling available through our units, you may also find it helpful to contact one of the national support groups who may put you in touch with others who have had similar treatment. Each fertility centre will be able to provide you with details of local and national support groups.

Specialists offering Coping with infertility

Mr Ken Emmanuel

Consultant Gynaecologist and Obstetrician

BSc (Hons), MB BS, MRCOG, MRCGP, Cert Advanced Gynaecological Endoscopy

BMI The Ridgeway Hospital

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Miss Rachel Lyons

Consultant Gynaecologist

BSc (Hons), FRCOG, MD

BMI The Clementine Churchill Hospital

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Prof Francis Chinegwundoh MBE

Consultant Urologist


BMI The Blackheath Hospital 1 more BMI The London Independent Hospital

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Mr Yadava Jeve

Consultant Gynaecologist Subspecialist Fertility


The Priory Hospital

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Mr Alak Pal

Consultant Obstetrician & Gynaecologist

MBBS, MD, Diplomate of National Board, FRCOG

BMI The Clementine Churchill Hospital 2 more BMI The Princess Margaret Hospital BMI Syon Clinic

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Mrs Nadia Soliman

Consultant Gynaecologist & Pelvic Surgeon


BMI The Winterbourne Hospital

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